Separating yourself from "you"

I'm selfish. I always have been (ask my mom). It's kind of hard to separate what you have been used to doing all of your life from what your life eventually becomes when you get married. The "you" that you have always looked out for suddenly becomes two. It's been very difficult making this transition , but in the end I think that the change is worth it if you are with someone that's worth sharing yourself with. From the moment I met my wife in college, I always thought there was something special there. Life happens and things always seem to work out for the best. I believe that's why it took years and several life-changing events for us to finally jump the broom (eight years and a my first failed marriage to someone else to be exact).
Sometimes going through failure helps you become a better person if you are able to leave the negativity of failure behind and obtain the positive learning from your past mistakes. Often we hang on to negativity when we fail at something. I admit that failure can tie a lot of unwanted baggage to the already overloaded struggle of life. A big part of that is the fear of not wanting to fail again or leaving yourself open to be hurt in the same way. I must admit, I learned more of what not to do as a husband my first marriage than what to do to a person that is supposed to be more significant than yourself. I'm glad I had that experience because it helped me to be a better husband to the one I feel was meant for me in the long run, who is my current wife now. Now, I'm by no means perfect, but I do think that I've made better decisions than I had made the first time around. Sometimes the Divine can set you up for where you need to be if you are strong enough to make it through the struggle of failure and are not afraid of exposing yourself to the possibility of trying again.
I don't get why people are afraid of loving again after being hurt. THAT'S WHAT LOVE IS ALL ABOUT: TAKING A CHANCE!! Nothing in life is guaranteed, and life is too short to live alone. Luckily for me, the Divine gave me another shot at love with the one I should have married to begin with. Life is like that sometimes: you fail only to succeed at something greater than you could have ever imagined.